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Catherine Redfern, editor of The F-Word replies
I think the author is saying that this view (i.e. sex = men dominating / controlling / posessing women) is the mainstream or common view of sexuality that is always presented to us as fact, not necessarily the way that things actually are in reality for all individual couples. Yes, for many hetero couples penetration does not imply control and dominance – but the point is that the mainstream view of the act and the way it is discussed in popular culture (lad mags for example) does reinforce that view of it, and this perpetuates a skewed and limiting view of men and women’s sexuality which many people still do believe: e.g. that men always have a greater sex drive than women; that sex for women must involve “submitting” or being “submissive”, etc. – Ed