You see in my life as WOC , pretty has had fuck all to do with attractiveness, vibrancy, or sexuality , it has had everything with a validation.
A validation that includes protection, ownership, and often the use of these things to pit women agianst each other, sometimes by patriarchial interests, OFTEN by racist thematics, and sometimes love itself.
karnythia on the theme of “learning to love myself”:
Over the years I’ve come to terms with the fact that there is more to beauty than alabaster skin and blonde hair, but it still gives me a little twinge to walk past the magazine rack and know that chances are excellent that most of the magazines aimed at preteens and teens will not be featuring many WOC. And that’s the age when it really matters the most. Why? Because little girls who don’t see positive images of women that look like them grow up to be women that don’t manage to love themselves. And it’s not just about blonde dye, painful relaxers, weaves and colored contact lenses like I know some people will assume is the whole impact. It’s also about bad relationships, eating disorders, and years of simply not feeling worthwhile.